Education , Parenting, And Discipline

 

 

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                                                               The Kababas And The Kamamas    

 

 

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 👫Every parent has to discipline, do proper parenting, and prepare their children for formal education. This is done hopefully so that the child shall eventually benefit from school education under perfect discipline👏. 

When I talk about parenting, my mind goes back to our days of discipline, and when parents were parents indeed. (I am not belittling today's parenting, but there is a big difference.) Many changes have taken place. The environment is quite different, where parenting and discipline in children are questionable. 

There are many areas concerning education, discipline, and parenting. Let me dwell on the parenting and discipline of the child at home, a child 👶  at age eight years and below. This is the child at home and the child in Grade 3. This is the 'kababa' and 'kamama'(my dear dad and my dear mum) of today's parents. The moment these names are entertained, things go haywire in parenting and discipline! There were no such names in those early days of parenting. 

👧👦The kababas and kamamas are let to behave freely with no discipline in the house. They touch and play with anything freely in the house, as equal owners of the properties. They stand and play on the sofas with dirty feet. They seriously jump on the seats almost breaking them. They, both parents and the children do not care about any possible damage. Is this parenting? Is it proper discipline? Thekababas and kamamas should not be left to enjoy free discipline! 

There is no distinction between the parents' seat and the children's seat. Anyone of them can sit 💺  in any seat. No boundaries are put, it is a free space in their free world. A free world parenting that kills discipline, responsibility, respect, and care. This freedom results in 'my discipline my choice.' Parents have no control over their children's behaviour. This is a lack of discipline and disastrous parenting! 

When I hear of a sofa, a chill runs down my spine. It is unbelievable! A child touching a sofa, leave alone stepping on it! This was a capital offence in Yester's years of parenting and discipline. The sofas were meant for parents and important visitors. Sitting or playing in parents' space was unheard of. It was abominable. A taboo indeed! The restrictions were tough, good, and accepted by all. It was good discipline. No alternative behaviour was known in parenting🙋. 

At school, these children join a playgroup👶, pre-primary 1 and 2, then Grade1 onwards. This is where discipline problems escalate (I am just whispering). Most of the teachers' parenting and discipline were similar to these children's. Do you think their behaviour is much different? Some time, not long ago, when I was the CEO of a certain school, I was a victim of this generation of teachers and their parenting and discipline. I had a teacher who would come to school unprepared to work-no discipline. In class, there was no difference, in her absence or presence. Children would play and make noise at will in her presence-lack of discipline. I warned her severally and later, I delegated the deputy to deal with her. It was not easy to correct late parenting and discipline. He recommended we call upon the guidance and counselling department to advise her accordingly. It was my administrative discipline and tactic to get a second opinion before taking any action to discipline. It always worked. This one yielded, too, at last!💪

💗Progressively, the children graduate to upper primary. The management of upper classes from Grade 4 is different, in comparison to the lower classes. In the upper classes, the subjects are allocated to various teachers. This is an opportunity for pupils to intermingle with the teachers, both young and old as they discipline them. The older teachers are mostly no-nonsense teachers. They are disciplinarians who do not swallow the misbehaviour as kababas and kamamas and their parenting and discipline issues.

It is not a one-day task to undo the misbehaviour in the discipline. It needs discipline, courage, and patience from devoted teachers and parents. After a while, most of the pupils adapt to the new normal discipline. Unfortunately, there are a few who feel they are being undone from the kababas and kamamas  parenting by their parents and teachers, and they threaten suicide where some succeed🙅😿! 

😇Parenting and discipline issues can easily be solved. Some of the best ways to solve this social burden are by including parenting and discipline as a subject, in tertiary colleges, and universities. This will serve as an eye-opener to youthful parents. Worship houses can play a big role. The worship leaders can guide the young parents on parenting and discipline. Likewise, chiefs and other local leaders can organize seminars to advise the youth on parenting and discipline. School management should bring in place the rotational method where teachers do a collective responsibility to handle discipline in all the classes. 

Parenting and discipline must be free from corruption. Though, not open corruption, it matures into total corruption! Children must not be given bribes to perform a task. Be it school work or homework. This bribery (silent corruption), creates a notion in the mind of the children, that unless they are given something, then, they would not perform well in any task, both at home 🏡  and in school 🎓 . This is not good discipline. 

Old parents, young parents, and teachers remember🙇; we can't separate discipline from parenting, and discipline from education. 

Discipline✌, Discipline☺, Discipline👍. 

Well, having read the article above, may you read the following work by the same author. 

1. Smart score Grade 1 Kiswahili section by Longhorn publishers -Found in all bookshops in Kenya👦👧. 
2. Violence In Kenya-Untold Basic Facts (ebook) by Smashwords🙏🙊. 
3. Devilry(ebook) by Smashwords😏😒😓😔.